After my second miscarriage, I told my husband I couldn’t ever go through another. That I would rather never be pregnant than have to go through the heartbreak again. So when I got pregnant in March of 2016, knowing I’d had two miscarriages already, I didn’t let myself get excited. I didn’t want to start planning anything; I just wanted to go to my ultrasound appointment and see the baby and some sign of life and proper progress.
We made the two hour trip to St. Louis to see an associate of my specialist there. I’ll spare you the details, but she said something that despite my lack of planning, I hadn’t counted on: that it likely wasn’t a viable pregnancy. I didn’t dream that would happen to us again. One miscarriage was fairly common but I felt like two was like lightning striking. A third seemed like lightning striking the same place twice. In actuality, 15% of women will experience a miscarriage. Only 2% will have two miscarriages back-to-back. Only 1% of women will have 3 or more miscarriages, and at the point where two are diagnosed by a doctor, it is called Recurrent Pregnancy Loss (RPL). I’m sure a lot of women know a lot more about RPL than I do, and some would argue that a doctor must diagnose three, but I can only tell you what my doctor told me.
At this point we’d been trying to get pregnant for almost 4 years. Yes, we have been supremely blessed with a beautiful, sweet, intelligent six year old, but all three of us wanted to see our little family grow. She’s been praying for a baby since she was two years old. It can be the sweetest and the most heart-wrenching prayer you can hear a two year old pray. Especially when you’ve miscarried. At one point we asked her to stop. We couldn’t take hearing our sweet little girl praying for a baby we weren’t sure God was ever going to give us. (Just being real with you.)
So when the doctor told me that I would likely miscarry (for the third time), I was devastated. It was horrible. Even writing this now, I don’t like thinking about the few minutes after she gave us the bad news. (I’ve started and stopped typing this much of my story about four times in two hours.) Anyway, I’m pretty sure I moped for a few days. To be honest, I just couldn’t believe that the Lord would let me go through this again.
I realized then that I could let it harden my heart by listening to the fear, doubt, and confusion from the enemy (Satan), or I could combat the lie with the truth. Nothing dispels a LIE from the enemy like the TRUTH of God’s Word.
In John 8:44, Jesus is speaking to the Pharisees (the religious leaders of the day), telling them that He was from God and was sent to make disciples of them and set them free, and He said to them,
“Why do you not understand My speech? Because you are not able to listen to My word.
You are of your father the devil, and the desires of your father you want to do. He was a murderer from the beginning, and does not stand in the truth, because there is no truth in him. When he speaks a lie, he speaks from his own resources, for he is a liar and the father of it.” – John 8:43-44 (NKJV)
So, just so we’re on the same page, Jesus said the enemy was a liar, the father of lies, and when he lies, he does it from his own resources.
Satan lies. It’s what he does. He is the enemy of our souls. His whole existence and work is built on the idea that “misery loves company.” His goal is to keep us from living our best life for Jesus, and one of the ways he does that is to sideline us through difficult circumstances. He gives us a “reason” to not trust God and follow after Him. All it takes is a dominant thought that we don’t cast down, and we start listening to the lie and believing it if we aren’t vigilant in reading God’s Word. It’s a lie the enemy plants in our thoughts, and it starts to grow like a weed in the soil of our mind, and if we’re not careful, it will start to dominate our thought life. The lie will start to ingrain itself gradually into our thought patterns and we’ll feed and water it by thinking on it, talking about it, and even acting on it. It will start to infiltrate into other areas of our heart, and will choke out our joy, peace, and hope for the future. I don’t know what the lies are that perhaps you’ve listened to – but I can tell you, I’ve listened to a lot over the years, and it brought me nothing but pain that only Jesus could heal.
So here’s how the Bible says we fight the lie:
“For though we walk in the flesh, we do not war according to the flesh,
For the weapons of our warfare are not carnal but mighty in God for pulling down strongholds,
Casting down arguments and every high thing that exalts itself against the knowledge of God, bringing every thought into captivity to the obedience of Christ,”
– 2 Corinthians 10:3-5 (NKJV)
If you’re a big Bible reader, and you know what words like “stronghold”, “flesh”, and “casting down” mean in the New King James Version, go you! Sometimes though, when I have a lot of “biblical jargon” in a passage, I go to the NET Version in my Blue Letter Bible app. It says this:
“For though we live as human beings, we do not wage war according to human standards,
For the weapons of our warfare are not human weapons, but are made powerful by God for tearing down strongholds. We tear down arguments
And every arrogant obstacle that is raised up against the knowledge of God, and we take every thought captive to make it obey Christ.” – 2 Corinthians 10:3-5 (NET)
That’s a little clearer, but stronghold is used in both versions. According to my BLB app, the word used for “stronghold” is “ochyroma”, which means:
- “a castle, stronghold, fortress, fastness”
- “anything on which one relies”
- “of the arguments and reasonings by which a disputant endeavours to fortify his opinion and defend it against his opponent”
Have you ever heard anyone arguing something they just know is right, but you’re certain they’re wrong? In fact, the more they argue, the more erroneous facts they generally have tied together? They become so entrenched in the lie that they can’t see the truth. Maybe you know someone that used to be close to God, but has drifted away and has become the polar opposite of who they used to be. Maybe that person is you. I know it was me once. It all started with a lie that grew and became a stronghold that I held onto instead of clinging to Jesus. I started to believe the lie when I stopped reading God’s Word and using it against the lies the enemy would plant in my head. I nursed past hurts and current fears, and slowly but surely, the lie grew into a weed that choked the life of Jesus out of me. All because I got out of practice of reading God’s Word and letting it illuminate the dark places in my mind and heart.
As Jesus spoke to the Jews in the synagogue that day, the Bible says that many believed in Him.
“Then Jesus said to those Jews who believed Him, “If you abide in My word, you are My disciples indeed. And you shall know the truth, and the truth shall make you free.”
– John 8:31-32 (NKJV)
Back to fighting the lie.
We are human, but when it comes to the battlefield of the mind,* we have to realize that the lie from the enemy does not originate with us. If he’s the father of lies, then he created it, right? So when we go to fight the lie, we have to cast down (take with the use of force, pull down, demolish, destroy) the argument of the enemy by using the only weapon in our spiritual arsenal: the Sword of the Spirit, God’s Word.
So if we ever have a thought contrary to God’s word, we have to throw down and say, “No, that is not what God says about me and about my life. That is the opposite of what He calls true. That’s a lie from the enemy and I’m not going to dwell on it.”
We capture the thought – we realize we’re thinking it in the first place – and sometimes we’re not sure it’s a lie from the enemy, we just know we feel crappy when we think it – then we take it to Jesus. Ask the Lord if it’s true or not and pray for wisdom to know the difference. Someone gave me a great piece of advice once. They said there’s LIFE in the TRUTH, and there’s DEATH in the LIE. If it brings peace, joy, happiness, or even conviction that leads you to repentance, then it’s truth and it brings LIFE – life on earth and eternal life with Jesus. If it brings doubt, condemnation, confusion, or fear, then it’s a LIE which leads to DEATH. Have you dealt with the death of a dream or the death of your hope, or fear of the future? The thoughts pertaining to them are all lies from the enemy.
I would encourage you to THINK ABOUT WHAT YOU’RE THINKING ABOUT! In fact, I think Joyce Meyer says that all the time – so I’d call it pretty good advice. 😉
It’s not always easy to confront your thoughts – they seem to come so naturally. I would encourage you to get in God’s Word and see what He thinks about your situation. When we have thoughts that are contrary to what He says about us, we only know that through the Holy Spirit, which brings back to us what we’ve read or heard from the Bible. It’s important to read it every day. Frequently, we even have to re-train our brain to stop the lie and remind ourselves of God’s TRUTH for us.
I’ll leave you something to think about…
“Rejoice in the Lord always. Again I will say, rejoice!
Let your gentleness be known to all men. The Lord is at hand.
Be anxious for nothing, but in everything
by prayer and supplication, with thanksgiving,
let your requests be made known to God;
And the peace of God, which surpasses all understanding,
will guard your hearts and minds through Christ Jesus.
Finally, brethren, whatever things are true,
whatever things are noble,
whatever things are just,
whatever things are pure,
whatever things are lovely,
whatever things are of good report,
if there is any virtue and if there is anything praiseworthy –
meditate on these things.
The things which you learned and received and heard and saw in me,
these do, and the God of peace will be with you.”
– Philippians 4:4-9 (NKJV)
* “Battlefield of the Mind” is a book written by Joyce Meyer. It can be found on Amazon. I can’t say I’ve read the whole thing, but I know God has used Joyce’s teaching and preaching in the past to open up my eyes to a few areas of my life. Disclaimer: The only affiliation I have with Joyce Meyer is that we’re both Jesus followers. I receive no compensation for the plug of her book. 🙂
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